The effects of the oblivious heart??

There are very few things that should hold any degrees of impression on the well being and happiness of ones self. Some are necessary and a few are optional.

Shelter, clothing, food, water, self love and external affection.

The only thing that should have a variable outcome and therefore the highest amount of pressure is external affection. There are two parties involved to be able to achieve that as a fifth element of happiness thus making the inevitable variable.

The major problem with this, is that it becomes such an acceptable topic of thought and discussion when one is unhappy with their current situation, however, it remains a totalitarian topic of 'the ultimate taboo' to discus the real sense of emotion. One can easily say "I didn't like her" or "She flaked out on me", "I'm not into a relationship right now". On the contrast, it would seem that one can not and should not make a proclamation of desire to the opposition of needs. One can't say "I have love, but no one to give it to".

Due to the social political nature of class, judgment, outward appearance, and social rankings of the city I reside in, it becomes even more of a punishable offense to admit such feelings or needs as a man. A straight male, as I am, has an even tougher time trying to maintain dignity and pride, while being expected to 'bottle it up'. We are supposed to be a progressive society, and yet its more then frowned upon to express oneself to a woman that is in line for modern courting, it will inevitably be a cause for rejection if the balance of flirt to expression is thrown off in the slightest.

A man can admit to 'liking' a girl, or even 'loving' a girl, but the big social no-no is to announce that one is looking for love and not just a lay. The double standard is the anti-idealistic principle that we men with feelings have to live with. Women can openly talk about and admit their want for happiness through mutual love between a man and a woman, but a man can only lust for practicing the fine art of unwed fornication.

Is it so wrong to rate 'pillow talk' higher on the scales of pleasure over and above 'knocking boots'?

How can a man find love if he's forbidden to look?


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